Bride’s Edition

I really want to tell you all great things about our love story, but I have to tell you something first.

It wasn’t love at first sight.

It wasn’t a “you-had-me-at-hello-” type of love story.

The thing is, we only saw each other weeks after we said our first hello.

You see, we met online.

The craziest place to find someone to love. The world’s most dangerous place to fall in love.

Yet, we took the risk.

So here I am, struggling for words to explain just how crazy romantic this love story is. All the while, thinking, “Yes, we’ve gone this far.”

I wish I could tell you something about our first conversation. I wish it goes something like, “My heart skipped a beat and I just knew he was the one for me.” It would have sounded romantic for a love story (especially if you’re going to post it on your wedding website), but then again, the first hello wasn’t something like that.

If I remember correctly, all I said to myself was, “May mas hahaba pa pala sa pangalan ko.” I said it right after his full name popped in a window on my Yahoo Messenger. Robert Thomas Sagun I.

What I didn’t realize was, we’ve been talking on an almost 24/7 basis. He would send me a message right after I change my display picture (I was a cam whore back then), and looking back, maybe I did change my display picture that much.

I always said in my previous blogs (those I wrote years ago) that our friendship came in at the most perfect timing. I wanted to write this story without mentioning the ex, but I guess I have to thank him for one thing – I met Bob.

Our friendship was built on tough times. Those were the days were I wasn’t myself, where I desperately needed someone to talk to, someone who would not judge my decisions and someone who would guide me without imposing. Bob was that person.

After a rather gruesome experience with that exboyfriend, (who, by the way, I met online too), I told the biggest lie I ever told myself – that I will never settle for an online guy again.

Bob told me his feelings for me at exactly 12:46 AM of January 5, 2007.

And here’s exactly how it went…Note that I was using a different YM Id at that time.

alyana_tupaz : ano nga un..
sandman_6665 : sabi ko po
sandman_6665 : lingonk na ulit
sandman_6665 : serious na
sandman_6665 : d nk ongingiti
alyana_tupaz : ano un
sandman_6665 : sabi ko po
sandman_6665 : …
sandman_6665 : narinig mo ba?
alyana_tupaz : waaaaa
alyana_tupaz : kulet
sandman_6665 : ah wala nga pala mic
sandman_6665 : kala ko meron
sandman_6665 : :-P
alyana_tupaz : ngeks
sandman_6665 (12:46:29 AM): I LOVE YOU PO
sandman_6665 : WAAAA NASEND
sandman_6665 : :”>
alyana_tupaz : wengk
alyana_tupaz : tama nga basa ko
alyana_tupaz : wakokok
alyana_tupaz : kala ko magbabgo pag kusot ko eyes ko
sandman_6665 : i love you po sandman
sandman_6665 : hehe
alyana_tupaz : wah?
sandman_6665 : I LOVE YOU ELAY ELAY
sandman_6665 : WA MAGALIT HA?
sandman_6665 : WAK**
alyana_tupaz : wa
alyana_tupaz : seryoso ka?
alyana_tupaz : joke time?

It was all surreal to me and I just didn’t know how to react. We decided to meet up few weeks later and if I will even begin to narrate how it happen, we’d be spending too much time on this love story.

So let’s press the fast-forward button.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010, exactly 12:53 AM.

I’m on my bed, trying to finish this love story. Bob is a few feet away from me, facing his own computer, working this late to make sure I’ll have my dream wedding.

I wish I could tell you something about his proposal as well, but there was none. Or maybe there was, for we talked a whole lot about the wedding already even when the relationship was only a week old. Maybe all I’m saying is that there was never a fairy-tale moment of him kneeling down on one knee and asking me to be his princess yadiyadiya. It came upon us just one day, while we were just casually talking.

Like two mature people, deciding on their future. Less fairytail-ish, less scary.

You’d have to know that Bob never gave me flowers on our three years of being together. I never received a stuffed toy from him as well. No chocolates (well, if we count the times I MADE him buy something for me, well, he did).

Bob was never that kind of person. And I must admit that at most times, it was a problem to me – always questioning him why he won’t give me such things and it would just root out to a bigger problem coz he won’t give me a single explanation as to why he’s never bought me anything over the years.

But it all came to me, one night while I was checking his blog (www.bobloveselay.blogspot.com), that yes, he never gave me flowers, he never gave me stuffed toys, but he made sure I was happy even without those material things. He would sing at me whenever I want him to, he would compose endless songs for me, draw me on Adobe Illustrator using a mouse, would take care of me when I’m sick, and would continue to provide everything for me, with or without asking for it.

He never gave me anything – but his whole heart, and now, the rest of his life.

Our love story, as I would always say, was never perfect, and I don’t really expect it to be perfect anytime soon, coz this imperfection made everything so worthwhile. I have come to know all sorts of Bob. Bob the Moody, Bob the unpredictable, Bob the corniest joker around and all sorts of things you wouldn’t imagine at all.

Our love story is crazy unpredictable, and for the many times we almost gave up on it, we knew there was always something to hold on to.

For a love story that started with asl and ctc, I’m glad we’ve come this far.

Maybe all I really want to say is, I’m just glad I found my sandman.

6 Responses to “Bride’s Edition”

  1. 1
    KATY :) Says:
    April 7th, 2010 at 12:54 am

    “Bob the Moody, Bob the unpredictable, Bob the corniest joker around and all sorts of things you wouldn’t imagine at all.”
    .. naaalala ko tuloy ung jinoke ko lang si tito bob na sinigawan ko sya nung grade 2 pako. ginigising nya ko tas sinigawan ko sya e joke lang naman un, nagtampo! haha. xD

    AT NAINLAB C TITO BAB. XD

  2. 2
    Elay Says:
    April 7th, 2010 at 9:43 am

    Haha, Katy, di daw maalala ni tito bab. Memory gap na noh? Haha.

    Ayieee. Ikakasal na si tito bab. Hahaha! Siya lng mag isa. :p

  3. 3
    belle Says:
    May 8th, 2010 at 12:33 pm

    forgive me if i’ll flood your site with my comments, cant help it; hahahahaha!

    “he never gave me flowers, he never gave me stuffed toys, but he made sure I was happy even without those material things” sweet.:-)

    i should really tell my sister about this.hahahaha! just to give her some inspiration on what love is all about. :-)

    you are so blessed to have someone like him. :-)

  4. 4
    bobandelay Says:
    May 8th, 2010 at 8:21 pm

    then thank you so much for the flood! hehehe! super touched naman ako. thank you thankyou!

  5. 5
    Kengy Says:
    June 7th, 2010 at 7:42 pm

    WOW! ikinasal na ren! hehehe – :D Best Wishes po at magpakarami kayo wahehe….

  6. 6
    Jann Says:
    September 18th, 2010 at 9:22 pm

    I am chuckling with your love story because in some way, it reminds me of my own. I also met my guy online, also, because of my ex. The ex I almost ended marrying… buti na lang hinde! hehe. You’re lucky & you belong to the same place. My man don’t live here in pinas. He is coming over again in the next couple of months. Not yet marriage time, but we’re already semi planning for our wedding here. (hey, no proposal too… rings a bell? lol ). Thanks for sharing your experiences & they are all very helpful. I hope your website is my “sign” (naks. lol ). More power to you & your hubby. God bless you both & your journey. Cheers! :)

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